Beneficial aritcles

Story of Appreciation

One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.

He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.

The director asked, “Did you obtain any scholarships in school?” the youth answered “none”.

The director asked, ” Was it your father who paid for your school fees?” The youth answered, “My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.

The director asked, ” Where did your mother work?” The youth answered, “My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.

The director asked, ” Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?” The youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.

The director said, “I have a request. When you go back today, go and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother’s hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.

This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his graduation, academic excellence and his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director’s office.

The Director noticed the tears in the youth’s eyes, asked: ” Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?”

The youth answered, ” I cleaned my mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes’

The Director asked, ” please tell me your feelings.”

The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working together and helping
my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and value of family relationship.

The director said, ” This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The company’s performance improved tremendously.

A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop “entitlement mentality” and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent’s efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying the kid instead?*

You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.

You would have forwarded many mails to many and many of them would have back mailed you too…but try and forward this story to as many as possible…this may change somebody’s fate…

Islamic articles

A Believer’s Attitude During Fitnah

TIMES are difficult. Peace and security are scarce and fleeting. Humankind frequently suffers tribulations such as natural disasters, war and tyrannical rulers. Social and economic problems such as unemployment, divorce, permissive youth culture, terrorism, rampant crime and lack of education and morality, abound.
However, out of all problems, dissension, division and discord seem to rule the roost.
Ibn Al-A’rabi summed up the meanings of fitnah when he said: “Fitnah means testing, fitnah means trial, fitnah means wealth, fitnah means children, fitnah means kufr, fitnah means differences of opinion among people, fitnah means burning with fire.” (Lisan Al-‘Arab by Ibn Manzoor)
During fitnah, a Muslim is often left confused about what to do; how to keep despair at bay and remain hopeful; whose side to take during a conflict, and who to blame or condemn? The haqq (truth) becomes blurry with baatil (falsehood).
Our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) prophesied the onslaught of fitan near the end of time, i.e. when mankind will be in its last part. He said: “Time will pass quickly, good deeds will decrease, miserliness will be thrown (in people’s hearts), fitan will appear, and there will be much Al-Haraj.” The Sahabah (Companions) enquired, “O Messenger of Allah! What is Al-Haraj?”. The Prophet replied, “Killing! Killing!” (Sahih Al-Bukhari: 88, 183)
Notwithstanding whether we are in those times or not, the fact remains that the frequency of fitnah has increased exponentially since even the last hundred years.
The question is: What should a believer do when faced with trying situations?

Deliberation and patience

Whenever civil strife, killing, or conflict between ethnic or religious groups take place; or an all-encompassing natural disaster destroys tens of thousands of livelihoods and homes, the believer tries to deliberate and slowly take it all in at first.

It was narrated that Al-Zubair Bin ‘Adiyy said: “We came to Anas Bin Malik and complained to him about what we were suffering at the hands of Al-Hajjaj. He said, “Be patient, for there never comes to you a time but what follows it is worse, until you meet your Lord. I heard this from your Prophet (pbuh).” (Sahih Al-Bukhari: 7068)
When fitnah is intense, groups on opposing sides pressurize religious heads and people occupying posts of authority take sides immediately. Silence and deliberation is taken as betrayal; the silent Muslim’s faith and loyalty to Islam is questioned.
It is about such times that the Prophet (pbuh) warned us: Narrated Abu Hurairah, the Prophet (pbuh) said: “There will be fitnah (civil strife) which will render people deaf, dumb and blind regarding what is right. Those who contemplate it will be drawn by it, and giving rein to the tongue during it, will be like smiting with the sword.” (Abu Dawud: Book 30, 4251)

Not taking sides immediately

In obedience to the Prophet’s advice, the cautious Muslim keeps his mouth shut and absorbs the information streaming in from all directions with a clear mind and sound heart. He refuses to react and jump to conclusions on the basis of obscure, conjectural media reports, or inflammatory opinion pieces penned by emotionally charged, hype-seeking journalists.

Not expressing opinions

Often, during civic strife or politically chaotic events, the ever-present, multifaceted, round-the-clock media channels invite all and sundry to express their opinions regarding specific individuals, institutions, governments, convicted criminals or even figures in authority.

Twitter and Facebook become awash with deluges of curse words, abusive language, hate-festering and public denunciation of organizations or individuals, especially rulers and politicians. Whether the stimulus is someone’s conviction for a crime, or the stance of Islamic fiqh regarding the nature of the crime itself, television, radio, online media and even cell phones issue forth discussions, articles, fatwas and heated op-eds.
Confusion, chaos and no less than jurisprudential anarchy result. Difficult though it is, a wise Muslim tries to avoid forming or voicing fixed opinions immediately when he or she hears of an event, as this will cause no benefit; rather, they know that it will just add fuel to the fire.

Turning to Allah 

Since Islam exhorts that one should never jump to conclusions about an event or person unless clear proof or eyewitness accounts exist, a believer as usual, turns to his Lord in earnest dua, or supplication; in dhikr – remembrance of heart and tongue, and in qiyaam – soulful prayers late at night, in order to seek the stance he should take; to beseech the Almighty Allah to make the haqq and baatil, both, become crystal clear to him.

Staying neutral

The times today are such that, while we are still blessed with a multitude of Islamic scholars and people of knowledge, the ‘urf makan – customs of a particular place – vary from place to place, and each scholar is not equipped to give verdicts regarding situations faced by Muslims in another geographical area of the world. Hence, verdicts or fatawa that apply to Muslims at one place might not apply to those in another. This is not taken into account by laymen when they shoot off fatawa from one scholar to counter those given by another during civil strife or war. Result? Confusion and dissension.

The recommended attitude of the common Muslim is that of silence and aversion to rolling off fatawa from the tip of his tongue at the merest of provocations or demands. The role of qualified, expert Islamic scholars and certified muftis should be left to them.
If Muslims adhere to the advice meted out to them by Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and by his noble Companions, they’d find peace in their hearts and relief from the distress caused by frequent and varying tribulations, or fitan.
The Prophet (pubh) said, “Whoever among you lives (for a long time) will see many dissensions. I urge you to follow my Sunnah and the way of the rightly-guided Caliphs who come after me. Hold on to it firmly…” (Musnad Ahmad, 4/126) and Al-Tirmidhi, 2676)
Source: Saudi Gazette